The hardest part about mistakes is to keep moving forward but that is what you must do. Everyone makes mistakes but if you keep moving forward the mistake will soon be behind you. Have you ever made a mistake at a new job?
I currently work as a volunteer patrol deputy for our local Sheriff’s department. I had spent 25 years prior working for a corporate high tech company and then decided to go through the police academy and volunteer for the community in a unique way.
The environment at a law enforcement agency is vastly different from the corporate company I was used to. Yes, I made mistakes. It’s hard on the ego when you get called on the pad and into the Lieutenant’s office. Part of me wanted to quit and say this is just not for me. But when you keep moving forward you can sometimes become better for having made the mistake. The best thing to do is own up to it and face whatever consequences come with it and continue to do your best.
Because of what I learned from that mistake I’m now in a position to help coach others on how to avoid that particular mistake should the opportunity arise. Can you think of ways that you became better because of mistakes you have made?
The Sheriff gives a speech every year at our official swearing in ceremony. Because consequences can be severe for mistakes made in law enforcement he always talks about the concept of owning up to mistakes and moving on. He has an awesome sense of humor and a fun personality, but he shows us his serious side when he talks about consequences in our work mistakes.
The other option is to stop, freeze, or quit. If you stop moving forward and are worried about making more mistakes you will never progress. Every successful person has made mistakes and know they will make mistakes again. They don’t live in fear of mistakes.
My friend April and I share some of the exact same mistakes regarding motherhood. Sometimes this gives us a special bond with a friend and helps us deal with residual guilt and healing. For women especially there is a certain amount of guilt we all feel about not being perfect mothers for our kids. Whether it is simply a matter of raising the children, sharing custody, adoption, congenital medical issues or children’s health issues, whatever is the circumstance these all cause very deep emotional issues for women.
Because of what happened in April’s situation she lost a lot of weight and became very thin, then did the yo-yo in the opposite direction and gained a lot of weight and started down the path of an emotional eating disorder.
April believes that the reeling torment on the inside was being reflected on the outside (manifested in her yo-yo body weight), and that she was punishing herself for the guilt she felt.
April finally decided to take a step forward when she joined the Venus Index Community. She owned up to her mistakes with eating along with the other mistakes. She allowed herself to be accepted into a community of women who understood and treated her warmly and with respect. April said this has helped her get her body right and get through some rough times. This is helping her get her mind right as well. April learned that sometimes getting support means you have to give it order to get it.
April wants to learn to forgive herself for not being perfect for her son. She shares a unique story where she is the birth mother and she shares a special bond with Rebecca Bennett. April wants to be a Venus both inside and out. I think she is well on her way and moving forward now.
As we start out on our weight loss journey full of hope, new tools, new books to read, and new workouts we must remember to forgive ourselves from the mistakes that we will make. We must learn to keep moving forward, or falling forward, or leaping forward, anything but staying frozen in fear of mistakes.
Whether the mistakes are at a job or school, or on your weight loss journey you can move forward and learn to overcome adversity. Do you have trouble getting over a sabotage point; have anxiety with food choices, or food addictions? These can all be overcome; you can learn a new way to eat regardless of your situation. Are you afraid of the gym or are you afraid to lift heavy? This too can be overcome with a winning mindset.
What about you? Will you learn from your mistakes and keep moving, or will you let mistakes control you?
It is your choice.